Today is day seven of crutches, which means day seven of mainly sitting on the couch, which means I have too much time to think, which means I start analyzing, which means I start doubting myself, which means my negative, pity-party alter-ego rears her ugly head...
"Your blog isn't good."
"You'll never be successful like so-and-so."
"Look at all of the amazing talent out there. You'll never be as good as them."
"You're not pretty anymore. Stretch-marks, age-spots, grey hairs, uneven skin tone...shall I continue?"
But, as I was bending down to shave my legs in the shower (which is quite awkward standing on one good leg), my lets-put-our-big-girl-panties-on alter-ego showed up and interrupted. I met her a few years ago when learning how to overcome my depression and anxiety.
"What would you do if your best friend was talking to herself like this?"
That's easy. I would interrupt her rant and say, "Are you kidding? You are so talented! You have so much to offer! Sure, there are other women who have amazing talents, but does that mean you have nothing to offer? Just start somewhere, be exactly who you are and trust God to do the rest! Don't doubt yourself. I believe in you!"
So, ask yourself. How's your self-talk these days? Do you talk to yourself like a friend or are you entertaining that same pessimistic alter-ego that shows up when you are about to move forward?
Well, I for one, am not going to keep hanging out with her. She is such a drag.
"Your blog isn't good."
"You'll never be successful like so-and-so."
"Look at all of the amazing talent out there. You'll never be as good as them."
"You're not pretty anymore. Stretch-marks, age-spots, grey hairs, uneven skin tone...shall I continue?"
But, as I was bending down to shave my legs in the shower (which is quite awkward standing on one good leg), my lets-put-our-big-girl-panties-on alter-ego showed up and interrupted. I met her a few years ago when learning how to overcome my depression and anxiety.
"What would you do if your best friend was talking to herself like this?"
That's easy. I would interrupt her rant and say, "Are you kidding? You are so talented! You have so much to offer! Sure, there are other women who have amazing talents, but does that mean you have nothing to offer? Just start somewhere, be exactly who you are and trust God to do the rest! Don't doubt yourself. I believe in you!"
So, ask yourself. How's your self-talk these days? Do you talk to yourself like a friend or are you entertaining that same pessimistic alter-ego that shows up when you are about to move forward?
Well, I for one, am not going to keep hanging out with her. She is such a drag.
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ReplyDeleteLove it Bri! You are doing a great job and you would NEVER let a friend talk like that. I mean you get the whole pack of gold stars for packing up with a brand new, I sware, a few DAYS old newborn plus your oldest, left your security blanket here and moved to NEW JERSEY. And you are thriving and giving your kids such an awesome experience. You totally rock Bri. ( I do not know how to officially comment, so love you, Lorie
ReplyDeleteI love this post! I have had similar conversations with myself. Way to go for recognizing that voice and telling her to shut up. :)
ReplyDeleteYour blog is rockin'! You keep up the writing and they will come. Go girl!!!
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