Saturday, June 2, 2012

Uh-Oh. Daddy's In Charge.

On Monday, June 4th, I am having hip surgery. “Hip surgery?” you might ask. “How old is this chick?”

Well, if you must know, I am thirty-two. And I have a labral tear in my hip, which medically speaking, means my hip hurts badly.

It apparently happened around twelve years ago when I must have had some trauma to my hip. It has progressively gotten worse and most recently has had me stuck on the floor unable to get up. The pain is excruciating and forces me to cry out loudly, which scares my toddler to death.

So, we knew it was time to do something about it. I wondered, though, “How will I juggle everything on crutches? I have a toddler who loves his mommy and an eight year old who relies on me for a lot, too.” But, my wonderful husband was able to get two weeks off from work to take over Mommy duty.

That’s right. My husband will officially be my replacement for two whole weeks. He has been gearing up for the challenge by making spreadsheets for meals and snacks (I’m not kidding) and planning daily schedules. I have a little apprehension about his temporary role for a two reasons.

A.     I must let go of total household control.

Cooking. Cleaning. Laundry. The works. I know he will do a great job, but there are certain things that concern me. Like, when he does the dishes, will he rinse out the sink afterwards? Sure the laundry will be done, but will he cross contaminate by putting the dirty clothes in the clean basket and the clean clothes in the dirty basket? These are all serious issues people. I mean, how can I rest knowing there might be food particles stuck to the sides of the sink?
B.     He might actually out-do me.

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a tad nervous that his spreadsheet organization might just set a new standard for how this household runs. I mean, I am more organized than I used to be, but I am still a sanguine personality, which means I enjoy flying by the seat of my pants to some degree. What if he actually gets it all done and at the end of the day thinks, “Man. What does she complain about? She’s got it so easy. This is a cake walk.”

I know what you’re thinking. “Brianne, that won’t happen.” But, to some degree I guess I worry that my flaws as a household manager might be exposed in a rather dramatic fashion.

Truth be told, I do know it will not be easy for him. I know that no amount of planning I have ever done prepared me for the unexpected. Kids get sick. Recipes flop. Fatigue kicks in. Laundry gets backed-up. You forget to turn the crockpot off and cook your seven-hour recipe for thirteen hours. (Uh-oh. Did I just say that out loud?) 

Being a Mom is hard. Heck, being a woman is hard. Throw in our responsibilities, insecurities, expectations and our complex multi-tasking abilities and we tend to harbor on borderline skitzophrenia!

So, as I glance over my shoulder at my husband’s lofty plans for his two-week stint as Super-dad, I must remind myself to let it go. Whether he forgets to spot treat the laundry or vacuum under the edges of the rug, I am blessed to have a husband who is willing to be my hands and feet when I am down.

But, that doesn’t mean I won’t be doing inward fist pumps when he has to revise his spreadsheets.


  1. I totally know how you feel Brianne!! This pregnancy has put me down and my husband has had to help out around the house when my mother is not available to. I've had some of those same thoughts too! I've even had to keep my mouth shut sometimes because he'll do something that's not how I do it. I'll stop and think "Sheree at least he's helping out" and cringe and bare it. Everything will be just fine! Don't worry! My 4 year old, step-daughter, and I are still alive! LOL! Hope everything goes smoothly and you have a speedy recovery!
    Sheree Lindsey

  2. Go Lance!!! How organized. However, I do hope he has factored in loopholes like you said. I think he'll realize just how much you do and sacrifice for your family and will be so grateful that he doesn't have to do your job 24/7!! Love ya babe. ~Elizabeth

  3. I'm proud of your hubby. He's got lofty plans.... It may be easier for him because the boys will absolutely not be so demanding on him. They will listen to him the first time, and they will be pure delights.... I know, because this is what happens with my children when I'm not around or unavailable. My kids don't fuss, complain, whine,etc. When I come home and ask how things went, the answer is usually the same, "Great! I hardly saw the kids at all. They've been really quiet) Grrrrr......

  4. love love love this picture!! what a beautiful family you have :)

  5. Expect him to feel as if he has it all together because he is in the "Honeymoon Stage". When I first got married I cooked 3 meals a day and tried to keep on top of the house all the time. It was short lived because reality set in that it was not like when I played house as a girl. It NEVER stopped! I went through this again after the birth of each of my children. I decided to stay on top of things. Then again reality set in that it was a never ending cycle. What people that have never stayed home to run the household full time is that it is menatlly exhausting. That is the hardest part to over come. Trying to feel fulfilled with washing clothes, cooking, and wiping butts FOR FREE!!!! He can do it for two weeks, but if it was for 8 years he would fall apart at times just like everyone does whether they will admit it or not.